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Some mothers get it all wrong when it comes to parenting. They convince themselves that they can just choose to divorce or to raise children solo without the children developing significant emotional challenges throughout their lives. They have never been more wrong. Surely, there is some data out there that can be used to help bolster their case. However, overwhelming evidence confirms that children are harmed when they are raised without fathers. If you are really concerned about your children’s welfare, you might want to think carefully first or to even get professional advice before you screw up their lives forever.

According to many children; one of the worst times that they encountered throughout the entire divorce process, was when they had to deal with a step-parent. You, the parent, might have known that the marriage was not going well for years. In fact, the “d” word might have been thrown around so much, that when it finally arrived, you welcomed it with open arms and you were already prepared to move on. For your children, however, even though things might have been rocky for years, they had grown accustomed to both parents still being there, and they expected that they would continue to stay together, even though they would fight from time to time. For them, when the divorce finally comes, it often hits them with volcanic strength, and they need time to process it and to heal. They did not bargain for that. Hence, parents should remember that even though they might be ready for a new relationship, and they probably even started one even before the divorce was final, children will need time before they are ready to be introduced to someone new, someone, who they will probably view as the substitute for their other parent. If you want them to heal well and to be supportive, you should wait…wait as long as possible and help your kids heal before you bring someone new to their lives. You owe it to them.

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Recent conversations with husbands of various backgrounds revealed very worrisome feelings about how they feel about their wives. They describe them very negatively, using words like: “disappointed, unprepared, rude, wasteful, selfish, uncaring, neglectful, argumentative, and not knowing how to please men.” Very harsh generalizations,  don’t you think? Are wives really that different today? What do you think? There seems to be reason for concern because these types of complaints are could put already vulnerable families at risk for dissolution as well as affect the welfare of our children. So, what do you think about how wives behave today? I expect many women will react very strongly to this question, based on what husbands are saying. Maybe some husbands could also get their wife’s permission to post a comment?

The next Sandcastles group for children of divorce ages 6-17 years in Pembroke Pines, Florida with Psychotherapist Dr. Percy Ricketts, is on Wednesday, July 28, 2010 at 4:00 pm.The next parenting class for divorcing or separated parents will be on Saturday, July 24, 2010, starting at 9:30 am. For registration or for further information, please visit www.divorceclass.info.

‘Before you divorce,” get educated on how you and your children could be affected. Get a copy of the small book by Psychotherapist and Divorce Consultant, Dr. Percy Ricketts of Broward County, Pembroke Pines, Florida. Autographed copies are available from www.divorceclass.info. Unless there in abuse or domestic violence, don’t make a life-altering decision before you are sure about what you are doing.

Enrollment in parenting classes since May would seem to suggest that the divorce rate might be increasing again. Hopefully, that is not the case . We can only look forward to data confirming what the real situation is. To enroll in a divorce education class with Psychotherapist, Dr. Percy Ricketts of Broward County, Pembroke Pines, Florida, or to purchase marriage and divorce-related resources, please visit www.divorceclass.info.

How George Survived His Parents’ Divorce is a small book for teenage children whose parents divorced. This book is designed to help children understand what divorce means and to help them cope with this life-changing process. If you are planning to divorce or you recently divorced, and you have teenage children, you can get a copy at www.divorceclass.info.  You can also register your children (ages 6-17 years) for divorce educational classes including the Sandcastles program with Psychotherapist, Dr. Percy Ricketts of Pembroke Pines, Broward County, Florida, at the same web address.If they must adjust appropriately following divorce, children need all the help they can get.

After taking a dive due to the adverse economic climate, there is some indication that divorce rates might be climbing again. Meanwhile, regardless of why parents decide to split, the result for many children will unfortunately be the same - disastrous. Remember, for marriage and divorce supplies by Psychotherapist, Dr. Percy Ricketts of Pembroke Pines, Broward County, Florida, or to register one of his classes, please visit www.divorceclass.info.

To purchase a copy of the DVD “Adjusting to divorce-Simple steps parents can take to help themselves and their children,” by Divorce Educator and Consultant, Dr. Percy Ricketts of Pembroke Pines, Broward County, Florida, please go to www.divorceclass.info and click on the “purchase products” tab in the top left hand corner.