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Some mothers get it all wrong when it comes to parenting. They convince themselves that they can just choose to divorce or to raise children solo without the children developing significant emotional challenges throughout their lives. They have never been more wrong. Surely, there is some data out there that can be used to help bolster their case. However, overwhelming evidence confirms that children are harmed when they are raised without fathers. If you are really concerned about your children’s welfare, you might want to think carefully first or to even get professional advice before you screw up their lives forever.

According to many children; one of the worst times that they encountered throughout the entire divorce process, was when they had to deal with a step-parent. You, the parent, might have known that the marriage was not going well for years. In fact, the “d” word might have been thrown around so much, that when it finally arrived, you welcomed it with open arms and you were already prepared to move on. For your children, however, even though things might have been rocky for years, they had grown accustomed to both parents still being there, and they expected that they would continue to stay together, even though they would fight from time to time. For them, when the divorce finally comes, it often hits them with volcanic strength, and they need time to process it and to heal. They did not bargain for that. Hence, parents should remember that even though they might be ready for a new relationship, and they probably even started one even before the divorce was final, children will need time before they are ready to be introduced to someone new, someone, who they will probably view as the substitute for their other parent. If you want them to heal well and to be supportive, you should wait…wait as long as possible and help your kids heal before you bring someone new to their lives. You owe it to them.

Recent conversations with husbands of various backgrounds revealed very worrisome feelings about how they feel about their wives. They describe them very negatively, using words like: “disappointed, unprepared, rude, wasteful, selfish, uncaring, neglectful, argumentative, and not knowing how to please men.” Very harsh generalizations,  don’t you think? Are wives really that different today? What do you think? There seems to be reason for concern because these types of complaints are could put already vulnerable families at risk for dissolution as well as affect the welfare of our children. So, what do you think about how wives behave today? I expect many women will react very strongly to this question, based on what husbands are saying. Maybe some husbands could also get their wife’s permission to post a comment?

‘Before you divorce,” get educated on how you and your children could be affected. Get a copy of the small book by Psychotherapist and Divorce Consultant, Dr. Percy Ricketts of Broward County, Pembroke Pines, Florida. Autographed copies are available from www.divorceclass.info. Unless there in abuse or domestic violence, don’t make a life-altering decision before you are sure about what you are doing.

Enrollment in parenting classes since May would seem to suggest that the divorce rate might be increasing again. Hopefully, that is not the case . We can only look forward to data confirming what the real situation is. To enroll in a divorce education class with Psychotherapist, Dr. Percy Ricketts of Broward County, Pembroke Pines, Florida, or to purchase marriage and divorce-related resources, please visit www.divorceclass.info.

How George Survived His Parents’ Divorce is a small book for teenage children whose parents divorced. This book is designed to help children understand what divorce means and to help them cope with this life-changing process. If you are planning to divorce or you recently divorced, and you have teenage children, you can get a copy at www.divorceclass.info.  You can also register your children (ages 6-17 years) for divorce educational classes including the Sandcastles program with Psychotherapist, Dr. Percy Ricketts of Pembroke Pines, Broward County, Florida, at the same web address.If they must adjust appropriately following divorce, children need all the help they can get.

After taking a dive due to the adverse economic climate, there is some indication that divorce rates might be climbing again. Meanwhile, regardless of why parents decide to split, the result for many children will unfortunately be the same - disastrous. Remember, for marriage and divorce supplies by Psychotherapist, Dr. Percy Ricketts of Pembroke Pines, Broward County, Florida, or to register one of his classes, please visit www.divorceclass.info.

Congratulations! You have decided to get married this June. What you may not know however, is that no matter how much “in love” you might feel you are, just like all other marriages in America, the chance that yours might make it through the first decade is 50/50. Still, you have sent out the invitations to close friends and relatives and you are looking forward to not just the BIG day, but indeed to a life of eternal bliss.  You ca pull it off! However, “Before you get married,” there are “110 things you should know.” This is the latest volume by Psychotherapist, Marriage and Divorce Consultant, Dr. Percy Ricketts, of Pembroke Pines, Broward County, Florida. Make sure you get a copy at www.divorceclass.info,” Before you get married.” Best of luck to you.

To purchase a copy of the DVD “Adjusting to divorce-Simple steps parents can take to help themselves and their children,” by Divorce Educator and Consultant, Dr. Percy Ricketts of Pembroke Pines, Broward County, Florida, please go to www.divorceclass.info and click on the “purchase products” tab in the top left hand corner.

Children of divorce will often fall into 3 main groups. A third will do very poorly. A third will do ok, and the final third will do exceptionally well, sometimes just as well, or even better than those whose parents stay married. Numerous factors, however, determine the group to which children will belong. These include: 1. How parents conduct themselves before, during and especially after the divorce. 2. How parents relate with each other. 3. How often parents see their children and how they relate to them. 3. How parents talk to each other in the children’s presence and what they say about each other to the children. 4. How soon parents get into new relationships, among many others. With the chance of a first marriage surviving beyond the first decade only 50/50; divorce is a reality in our society. Still, parents can determine how their children adjust to this life-altering event and they are morally obligated to esure that the adjust well. Remember, to register for mandatory parenting/divorce education classes and Sandcastles groups for children of divorce with Dr. Percy Ricketts of Pembroke Pines, Broward County, Florida, or to purchase divorce-related resources, please go to: www.divorceclass.info.